I'm wondering if anyone has any advice. I am adopting a child who was conceived by rape. I don't want to share this information with extended family. I'm also worried about how and when I will tell my child. Any advice?

We have pictures of my son with his first mother when he was a baby but she has dropped out of our lives in the years since. He is now four and asking where she went an why he doesn't see her. The problem is I don't know where she is or why she no longer picks our packets up at the agency. We only saw her twice after our son's adoption but we did use to talk occasionally on the phone but her phone is disconnected and I have no way to find out where she is now. I don't know what to tell him about why she isn't part of our lives anymore.

I know where I was born, where my adoption was completed and even my birth mothers name. I have written letters to the courts and all I get is the run around. The state i was born in says they have no non-identifying information on me that i should contact the state adoption was completed in. I contacted then and they said they have nothing and sent me back to the birth state. What can I do next? I dont have the money to hire an attorney to have my records unsealed or to hire a private investigator

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