Open Adoption Support » labels http://www.openadoptionsupport.com for families and individuals who support openness in adoption Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:59:53 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 How to tell her not to call herself "mommy?" http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2009/12/how-to-tell-her-not-to-call-herself-mommy/ http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2009/12/how-to-tell-her-not-to-call-herself-mommy/#comments Tue, 01 Dec 2009 14:25:07 +0000 Anonymous http://openadoptionsupport.com/?p=860
  • My son calls us both mommy. Am I doing right by him?
  • What name does the first family use with the adopted child?
  • What do I call my child's older birth siblings?
    • ]]>     well i received a call from my sons bmother. she asked me..when i come down next weekend, can I take a picture with K? I said sure,,she wants to go to sears. She said..i never took a picture just mommy and son! Well, now, I am going to allow the picture BUT wondering how Im going to address the whole..mommy and him thing. He calls her by her first name and since he just turned 3 he has no clue what adoption is just yet. So again,,shes managed to put me on the spot. Not sure how to address her.

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    ]]>     http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2009/12/how-to-tell-her-not-to-call-herself-mommy/feed/ 13     What name does the first family use with the adopted child? http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2009/06/what-name-does-the-first-family-use-with-the-adopted-child/ http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2009/06/what-name-does-the-first-family-use-with-the-adopted-child/#comments Wed, 10 Jun 2009 21:50:13 +0000 Anonymous http://openadoptionsupport.com/?p=761
  • At what age should I tell my adopted child that I am really her grandmother?
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    • ]]>     We have decided to call our 9 month old daughter’s fm by her first name and begin explaining adoption as “you came out of Nicole’s tummy” but how does your fm’s refer to the child? So far Nicole has been calling her “her daughter” which yes she is biologically, but we are not comfortable with that title being used because we feel it will confuse our little one as she grows and begins to undersand adoption. For example, birthday cards that say to my daughter… I am just not sure how others approach this. Our fm is only 17 and has a hard time with boundries in many aspects of her life and she still calls herself Laura’s Mommy on myspace–will there eventually be some understanding that she is not “mommy”?  Has anyone else’s child been confused by this??

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