Open Adoption Support » depression http://www.openadoptionsupport.com for families and individuals who support openness in adoption Tue, 07 Feb 2012 12:59:53 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 How do I deal with how much this hurts? http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2009/10/how-do-i-deal-with-how-much-this-hurts/ http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2009/10/how-do-i-deal-with-how-much-this-hurts/#comments Mon, 05 Oct 2009 09:12:07 +0000 Anonymous http://openadoptionsupport.com/?p=844
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    • ]]>     I have a little boy 17 months old and I also just gave four days ago to a beautiful baby boy who I have
    given up for adoption to a wonderful family and the adoption is open and we are like family now as well. We talk everyday and though we are out of the hospital I went for our first visit today and it was ok. I’m having a hard time with moving on. I know everyone says that but I don’t want to go see a counselor, I am so sick of people saying it will be ok when they don’t know. It’s as if part of me had died. I know I am so very lucky that I have two healthy beautiful children and that I chose such an amazing family. I did what was best for him and I couldn’t have asked for a more perfect match. But there is still that hurt. I made someone’s dream come true and I gave them the ultimate gift but I’m having a really hard time. I’m currently going to college online and I take care of my little boy but I could use some…advice or encouragement or something. I know it’s a great thing I did but that doesn’t make it easy. I have a little boy that needs me and I just feel like crawling in bed forever. I know it’s still new and it will get easier but right now it doesn’t feel that way. In about a week and a half the family will be taking him home to another country and I know that will be the
    ultimate hurt. I will only see him if they ever visit the states or if I ever visit them. She’s very open and loves me as much as I love her and says my son has two mommies and she’s open to as much contact as I want which is amazing I know but, I still have this hurt. I don’t know how, but can you offer anything? Any places to go like chatrooms or books to read or some hobby I should take up, should I run out and try to get a job right away? I’m open to your suggestions and I’m hoping I don’t need any medication. LOL.

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