Open Adoption Support » breastfeeding http://www.openadoptionsupport.com for families and individuals who support openness in adoption Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:52:52 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Is it ok to not save some things given by the birthparents? http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2010/04/is-it-ok-to-not-save-some-things-given-by-the-birthparents/ http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2010/04/is-it-ok-to-not-save-some-things-given-by-the-birthparents/#comments Thu, 22 Apr 2010 18:00:17 +0000 Anonymous http://openadoptionsupport.com/?p=976
  • What if the birthparents want to be called mom and dad?
  • How do I heal a misunderstanding? Or should I let things go?
    • ]]>     Over the past fews months, our birthparents, especially our bm, have sent some things for our son that have seemed inappropriate or just weren’t in our taste. Are we required to save and/or use everything that they send? Some things have been broken religious artifacts, some have been clothing that we just don’t care for. For example, she sent size 5T clothing for our son and insisted we take pictures of him in it for her- we told her that, as a then 11 month old, he couldn’t wear it but that we would save it for later and send her a picture when he could fit into it. Truth be told, if I had a choice, I would never put him that style of clothing.

    Another example: today, we received a cd of pictures of our son at birth and the first 9 months of his life before he came to live with us. Included was 20 pictures of his bm’s naked breasts. Yes, she was breastfeeding him in the pictures, but her breasts are fully visible. Our thought is to take out the photos we feel are inappropriate. I’m wondering, though, if this is considered “censoring” in OA and we should save and/or use everything?

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    1. What if the birthparents want to be called mom and dad?
    2. How do I heal a misunderstanding? Or should I let things go?

    ]]>     http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2010/04/is-it-ok-to-not-save-some-things-given-by-the-birthparents/feed/ 11     How do birth families feel about adoptive breastfeeding? http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2010/01/how-do-birth-families-feel-about-adoptive-breastfeeding/ http://www.openadoptionsupport.com/2010/01/how-do-birth-families-feel-about-adoptive-breastfeeding/#comments Mon, 25 Jan 2010 13:32:21 +0000 Anonymous http://openadoptionsupport.com/?p=896
  • Adoptive parents, would you want the first/birth mom of the child you adopted to tell her friends?
  • Is it normal that I feel this fond of my child's first mom lately?
  • What do I call my child's older birth siblings?
    • ]]>     My husband and I are waiting to adopt our second child. With our first adoption I did not breastfeed, I am considering breastfeeding our second child. I am curious how it worked out for anyone who has done it. Plus I would like to know how a birthmom would feel about it?

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    2. Is it normal that I feel this fond of my child's first mom lately?
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