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How can we move forward with finalization?

Anonymous — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:48:27 +0000

We adopted our son at 3 days old in 1/08. The paper work for finaalization was submitted to court 3/08. OUR ADOPTION IS STILL NOT FINAL. Our son in now 11 months old. Can’t get courts to give me information and my attorney is very difficult to reach and work with. My husband and I have considered hiring another attorney, but don’t have the money to start over. HELP Is a year too long for a private adoption or do we need to get a new attorney.

Can we help more before finalization?

How do we make sense of the adoption laws?

Anonymous — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 22:47:26 +0000

we are a gay couple of 20 years and we have been approached by a young lady that wants us to adopt her unborn child. the biological father is in complete agreement and will sign away parental rights. What steps do we have to follow? can she sign custody over to us at birth? What are the laws we have to follow? should she put one of us as biological father to avoid adoption process? is that legal? We are in Indiana

Should we agree to more than we're comfortable with?

Anonymous — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 18:55:44 +0000

A few months ago I was a birth coach for a friend’s daughter. B-mom arranged a private adoption for Baby but B-dad wouldn’t release custody, so Baby went into foster care. At that time, my husband and I were in the middle of getting certified for foster-adopt; we found out just a few weeks ago that Baby is in foster care (not sure if parental rights have been terminated yet). We discussed it and decided to ask B-mom and B-grandma (my friend) if they would like us to adopt Baby. They were ecstatic and readily agreed.

This is where it gets sticky… B-mom and B-dad are married. They have a toddler living with B-grandma because B-dad is in prison (drug related) and CPS was called on B-mom (neglect & drug related). We are more than willing to have a open contact with B-grandma and B-sister, but we aren’t sure about B-mom and B-dad due to their history. (We’ll do letters and photos but not sure about face to face.) Now B-mom doesn’t want us to adopt Baby unless she can have open contact. B-parents know where we live and we have another child, so there is some concern about safety, etc.

Has anyone encountered anything at all similar to this? Any information would be helpful!

Should I disclose my wish to nurse the baby we adopt?

Anonymous — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 02:42:03 +0000

I’m in the information gathering stage of the domestic adoption process, and I have a kind of strange question: /p>

I have a nearly 3 year old biological daughter that is still (on rare occasions) nursing – we are as a family believers in child-led weaning, and I have had a very very fulfilling nursing relationship with her. I would love to build up a milk supply sufficient for a newborn and nurse our adopted baby when we eventually get there. Is this something that I should put in my “profile”? How do the firstmoms here feel about that idea?

How do I go about adopting a friend's baby?

Help understanding cocaine exposure issues?

Anonymous — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 20:10:40 +0000

I won’t go into all the details, but am looking for information about parenting a baby (boy) who has been exposed to cocaine in utero- pretty heavily during the first 5 months, and again just now in the 9th. the mom (who was mostly clean for months 5-8) sadly just relapsed. so i’m looking for resources and words of wisdom from those with experience parenting a cocaine exposed baby. She has 2 other children (age 7 and 15 months) who were also drug exposed and are developing typically, but I don’t really know the details and haven’t met them.
The information on the internet seems to be pretty conflicting. The baby is due mid-november.

How do I go about adopting a friend's baby?

How do I go about adopting a friend's baby?

Anonymous — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 20:42:35 +0000

I currently work with a young girl who is thinking about giving her baby up for adoption at birth. I have a 4yr old daughter and I am seriously thinking about adopting her baby. I’m 28 but I am not married I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7yrs. I’m really not sure how it works with an open adoption. I think it would be easier for her knowing me and keeping in touch regarding her baby. Any advise would be helpful.

Is it impossible to set out to create an open international adoption?

Anonymous — Sun, 16 Dec 2007 18:17:01 +0000

I’d like to adopt internationally, maybe from Ethiopia, but only if it can be a truly open, ethical adoption. My lawyer tells me that’s impossible. Is she right?

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How do we write a pro-openness adoption profile?

Anonymous — Fri, 14 Sep 2007 21:20:31 +0000

I’d be interested in seeing more information for potential adoptive parents in the process of writing their profiles/”Dear Expectant Parent” letters. My spouse and I are working on our profile right now and looking for advice on how to convey our desire for openness. Our (very pro-open adoption) social worker has told us that many potential first parents have never heard of open adoption and that our letter should not assume that they know what it is. I’d be interested in discussion/advice on this topic from adoptive parents and first parents.

How can I encourage our son's first mom to write him a letter explaining how/why she gave up her child for adoption?

How can I find an ethical agency or attorney?

Anonymous — Mon, 02 Jul 2007 20:10:07 +0000

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