Some on this blog seem to convey that the best thing for the child is to stay with the firstmom unless she relinquishes. I don’t understand this thinking. What if the firstmom is a single parent on drugs living off the government? How can you compare that life to a stable married couple who can provide anything the child needs and love him or her like their own? In my situation, the firstparents were children themselves. They didn’t have jobs; they still lived with their parents who were unwilling to take care of a grandchild as well as their own children. My son’s birthmom DID want to keep him. She knew she couldn’t give him what she wanted him to have….a chance at a good life and opportunities and experiences she never had. Her decision had nothing to do with herself and everything to do with her son. If she would’ve chosen to keep him, it seems some on this website, would say…”Well good for her! That baby is in the best place…with his mother.” I couldn’t disagree more.

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