Whats 'normal' anyway?? I have been wondering this for a while. Not concerning myself, but my birthchild. I know some children learn to talk earlier and learn to count and tell colours and all. I have seen so much differences in even the way my nieces learn and what my friends children are like that I really really wonder what I should hope for in terms of development. I know that I will be terribly proud of my birthchild no matter what but some part of me wants to know that my birthchild is 'normal'. That the person that came out of me is not lacking in any way. Not that I think that at all. Not being a in a parenting role seems to confuse the way I view children and what to expect. I want to brag about my birthchild because I think so far the development seems impressive, but I'm not sure if its because of the parents who raise my birthchild or because of good genes. Can it be both?
Is it nature or nurture?
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Definitely both so you can
Definitely both so you can brag as much as you want. As adoptive parents we are nurturing his nature. I wouldn't even try to separate them out.
His first mom and I both joke about it even...when he does something very normal, but frustrating (like be incredibly stubborn), she will blame nurture while I blame nature ;)
My (adopted) son is 2-1/2
My (adopted) son is 2-1/2 and talks like a 4 year old. Cognitively, he's on a 4 year old level. I place a lot of credit for this with my son's birthmom. S sang to Jack while he was in the womb. S is a very articulate young lady, and, although she makes poor life choices, she's very "book smart". So I know that she gave him a good start, so to speak. My husband and I talk all the time and we read to Jack, sing, expose him to different experiences, and so on. So, there's the nurture part. But I do believe that the spark was put there by nature.
So, yes, it can be both.
I say, brag away!!!! Our
I say, brag away!!!!
Our (adopted) daughter is pretty amazing, too. At least we think so. My take? Nurture goes a long way but I'm sure that my kid is smart because her first mom is smart! I see so much of Pennie in our daughter -- her energetic optimism, her musicality, her amazing speech -- and while I'm willing to take some credit in the good job we do in supporting her natural abilities, I think her fabulousness is rooted in her genetic history.