Hello everyone, my names Tina. I’m 20 and last year in october i had to give up my son in an open adoption. And lately, i’m feeling down…i don’t know if its regret….is it because i’m his mother and i have an attachment? I have noone to talk to. Any suggestions?? Yes i keep in conact with his new parents and recieve pictures.
I’m feeling down and have no one to talk to. Any suggestions?
– August 28, 2012Posted in: Community Wisdom
Tina, I am sorry to hear you are feeling down. Sounds like you might be feeling grief, which is an understandable feeling since you have experienced a great loss recentlt. If you want to talk to someone about it, I recommend calling Backline 1-888-493-0092. It’s toll free number to call. The volunteers who answer the phone are trained to talk to people about their feelings in situations like yours. hugs!
Oh Natasha! Thanks for sharing the number to Backline — it’s a great organization! Here’s the web page for anyone who might be interested: http://www.yourbackline.org/
Hi. I’m a mom of adoption loss, too. If you’d like to talk, you can email me.
laurengros@ymail.com
There are so many feelings that may be felt in this situation, and a lot of them will conflict with each other on a pretty regular basis, I’ve found.
Take care and let me know if there’s anything I can do for you.
I suggest trying to find another birth mother in your area. There are a couple areas with support groups and I personally really appreciate that sort of group mentality but even talking to the agency you placed through and seeing if there is another birth mother at that agency that you could meet with. It helps to talk to people where you can talk about the grief you still feel and all you’re still going through. I know the first year leading up to my son’s birthday was extremely tough, so I think it’s great you’re looking for support.
I personally started writing a blog and connected to many other birthmothers that way, but if you’re not comfortable writing, trying to read some birth mother blogs and then emailing or contacting the women who write a blog you feel comfortable with is another possible way – I think almost all birth mothers who are out there writing would be more than happy to email with you and help you in any way they can. I suggest going over to openadoptionbloggers.com as a resource for blogs, they have a pretty extensive list of birth mothers blogging about open adoption.