– May 9, 2012Posted in: Community Wisdom
I’ve always been curious about what it was like for ‘the other side’ the adoptive families and how their families reacted to the decision to adopt or pursue adoption.
For me, as a first mom, I purposely excluded my family from the decision, but now, I wish they wanted to me a bigger part of the openness I experience. My mom especially turns down any offers of visits with my placed son and my siblings make excuses which amount to avoiding the idea of visiting or learning anything about my placed son (their birth-grandchild/nephew/cousin).
I know that before giving birth my son adoptive parents promised me that their church and their family was praying for me, which I liked very much. The one time I was fortunate enough to be at their church, I experienced their prayers there as well and loved that the whole community loved(and love) my placed son so very much. I really hope that every adopted child has that, a devoted loving community of friends and family, but I know it doesn’t always happen, no matter how devoted an adoptive family is.