Our children’s birth mother just posted a suicide note on Facebook.
We have not heard from her (other than her posts on Facebook, but nothing directly) since before Christmas. We do not have an address,
although she has told us what city she is living in/near. As long as she has not moved to another state again without telling us. We do not
have a telephone number.
She is currently estranged from her family. Her mother also does not have any way of contacting her and does not have an address or
telephone number.
I have sent her a message via Skype telling her to call me and that I am worried about her. We have also called the police in the city in
which she may (or may not) be. They are trying to locate her for a Well-Being Check.
Obviously, any advice you have will not help if she is in extreme crisis and has done something to end her life. Assuming the situation
is not as dire, moving forward — what should we do???
My head is whirling and I cannot catch my breath.
Comment on the note on facebook. Let her know how important she is to your family, how much the people in her life love her.
when I first signed up for FB, I had a dream I put a suicide note in my status and NOBODY responded. It was an awful dream. Shows my social anxiety, huh?
if you have any “mutual friends” contact them and ask them to comment their love on the note, too. Heck, send as many of her fb friends as possible a msg imploring them to comment their love.
take care of yourself, too. whatever happens, when people become determined to complete suicide (that’s the new way of saying it), sometimes there’s not much people can do.
final comment: attention-seeking suicide threats are a major symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder. they really don’t know the genetic component to this mental illness.
What a shock. I hope she is OK. I think Janine’s advice is really good and can’t think of anything else, but I wanted to offer some virtual support
I would pray.
I also agree with the others.
As someone who thinks of suicide often, I personally would never make a public note of it.
Of course, I have more accountability in my life so I do not seriously consider acting on my crazy notions.
Personally I have had miracles happen because someone prayed for me.
Strange and unexpected things have always prevented me from harming myself seriously.
So pray, I know I will. I know, as a first mom, a little bit about how she feels.
Update:
I did immediately post on her Facebook asking her to contact us and saying we were concerned about her. About 8 hours later, she called me. Her voice was slurred and she could barely speak. She said that she took a handful of pills and believed it was enough to kill her. She had just woken up. Alone.
I told her we loved her and cared for her. I said I was scared about her health. She promised she would go to the hospital and hung up. I haven’t heard from her since.
Unfortunately, I cannot contact any mutual acquaintances. We have very few and she is no longer in contact with any of them. Including her mother.
I’m afraid that I need to realize there is nothing I can do. I cannot fix the situation she has found herself in. I cannot stop her from repeatedly getting into abusive relationships. I cannot help her. The only thing I can do is continue to offer her our love & moral support.
And pray. Pray that she finds her way. Pray that she stops having relationships with men who beat her and tell her she is nothing. Pray that after suffering from a serious mental illness for most of her life, that she will finally get the help she needs.
I will pray for her and you and your family too. I’m sorry–I know how very much you love her. I know how much you wish you could just make it all better for her too.
when my daughter gave up be baby girl she told me she wanted to kill herself.i made her go see someone.well this woman sounds like she needs to see someone.if she trusts u you could advise her to seek help.it doesnt hurt to send a private message. maybe she just wants yr attention???? to scare u.. i tell u peole who adopt kids. u have one hell of a heart.. but plz be carefule to whom u trust and not….some people are just doewn right crazy..
I don’t believe this is the place for you.
I unapproved her post (it came through automatically)because I agree with you. I’ll email her off site to explain this to her
who’s post do you not approve? I was reading this and justithinking …..