As a birthfather, It appears I am in the minority as far as the responses on this blog. My situation was a little different in that my son’s adoption was closed. I would have loved the idea of being able to share in some aspect of my sons life. His adoption happened because of the fact that I loved him more than anything in this world. To be able to give your child the opportunity for a better life, is the purest, most unselfish love that exists. I did not get to share in his life, however six months ago was reunited with him via the internet. We have exchanged emails, texts and a few phone messages over the course of the last six months and I was able to meet him and his mother over the holidays. What a beautiful, amazing experience!
I have to say, the trepidations were plentiful. Not knowing what to say, when to say…or how to say it…became common for me.
You often hear about birthmoms and the adopted parents views…but seldom do you hear from birthfathers. Any advice from Adopted parents on how I might forge a healthy, new relationship with my birthson’s adopted mother? I appreciate any and all perspectives, as I wish for this to be healthy for all of us.