We have good relationships, although very different from one another, with both of our kids’ birthmothers. We talk fairly often and have periodic visits. My kids’ birthfathers are a completely different story, however. We have no contact with either, and likely won’t, at least, not until the kids are older. One denies paternity, and the other has a history of violence. It’s been natural to talk to the kids about their first mothers–they’re family. I mean no disrespect to these men, but I’m trying to think from my kids’ perspectives. Just who are these birthfathers to my kid? They aren’t involved with the kids’ fist moms, they weren’t involved when they were born. It seems the connection to them is strictly biological and I don’t quite know what to do with that. Especially, since it seems to bring sex into the equation. I mean, my 3 year old just barely gets that babies grow inside a woman and that he did, too, just like everyone else. That’s how his birthmother first became a part of his life. But, his birthfather? Um, how do I explain that in a way that’s appropriate. I’m not really sure what to say. Any insight here?
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