What are the biological mother's obligations to their adult child after being reunited?

– January 10, 2009Posted in: Community Wisdom

What are feelings on biological mother’s spiritual, moral, financial obligations to child after being reunited?

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   Anonymous

   Posted January 11, 2009 at 5:56 AM

   I am an adult child in

   I am an adult child in reunion with my biological mother.  I do not feel that she has any obligations to me in any catagory.  I would see our relationship the same (obligation wise) as that of any other friendship that I form with another adult.

   But on the other side of the coin…. my biological mother is getting on in years and is in poor health.  I’m starting to wonder what my obligations to her are? Financially I am not in a position to look after her, should it come to that. But if I was financially capable, would I? Yes, I probably would.  But I would not expect the same in return.

   Odd isn’t it?

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   Anonymous

   Posted January 11, 2009 at 8:01 AM

   A compassionate, loving

   A compassionate, loving person wants to do  for their loved ones and expects nothing in return (though reciprocation indicates a two way compassionate and loving relationship). Odd, no, not odd at all.

   Even if you can’t directly financially help her, you can research resources and do some leg work (eg; running errands, helping her find a more affordable or convenient place to live, setting up automatic bill pays or whatever helps her out) and help her live as well as possible with what she has.

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   Anonymous

   Posted January 11, 2009 at 6:15 PM

   It is my impression that

   It is my impression that reunion is a choice not an obligation in any way. I suppose you probably want to impart things to each other during reunion, its only natural, but you don’t HAVE to. If I was facing reunion as a birthmom how I respond to the needs of my birthson would depend on if he wanted or needed me too.

   Is this a adopted person asking or a first mom?

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   Anonymous

   Posted January 14, 2009 at 6:37 AM

   I believe a mother owes her

   I believe a mother owes her child his or her medical history and the name of his or her father at the very least, and also as much family history as she knows, for her child to do research/genealogy if desired.

   Beyond that, whatever relationship they can create and maintain is up to them.