I have had an open adoption for the past 17 years and have had a hard time finding people who understand what it feels like to place a baby for adoption. I just am wondering if others feel so isolated. I am proud of my decision and how my birthdaughter is growing up to be such an incredible young lady- better than anything I would have been able to help her become. My parents are supportive as is my husband but that leaves out an awful lot of people. I don’t need everyone to understand or support me but I would love to be able to talk to others about how much adoption has affected them and hopefully positively. I always find the negative folks or experiences. Thanks.
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Hi
After recently reading a
Hi
After recently reading a thread on a bulletin board on CafeMom about the number of birth mothers who feel that the open adoption experience has let them down, I am heartened to hear that you feel that it has been honored.
Are you aware of the site http://www.birthmombuds.com? I am an a-mom, and stumbled across it. Its quite remarkable. I think the tone does acknowledge the loss/sadness but also seems hopeful and even had a page to prospective adoptive parents/adoptive parents about some things to consider from the perspective of the birth mother and family.
I personally really appreciated the sense of “reaching out’ instead of seeing adoptive families as adversaries.
Also, Brenda Romanchik, a well known author and social worker, has published some wonderful handbooks on different issues related to losing a child to adoption (her words.)
She is truly a gift to all of us involved in the adoption experience.
I am a member of that site
I am a member of that site and as birthmom I love it very much that I can post thoughts and issues with only other birthmoms!! The site is very very very good. I think every adoptive parent should look at it. You just can’t post on the forums, those are just for birthmoms.
My son’s first mom loves to
My son’s first mom loves to talk with people, but is not into doing the “online forum” thing at all. I am sure she would be happy to email or exchange numbers with people though.
Perhaps y’all can start a Yahoo, Meet-Up or other email group that you could monitor (to keep the negativity out)?
let me assure you that this
let me assure you that this online forum for birthmoms is monitored and usually very postive. I find it is just like talking to other birthmoms. I don’t know how to start a ‘meet-up’ group or anything. Maybe if you can tell me how I will try and do it. I do want to reach out to other birthmoms like myself.